Financial Domination Interview with Bizarre Magazine

James Doorne of Bizarre Magazine interviews erotic hypnotist and dominatrix Isabella Valentine about financial domination. This article appears in May 2006 Edition

1) Were you surprised when you first heard about financial slavery? Are you still surprised when people sign up?

I was absolutely shocked the first time a male submissive told me he wanted me to enslave his wallet. He specifically asked me to control his spending, plan his budget, and devote large sums of money to me (which of course cut away any luxury spending he may have had for himself). I remember clearly thinking, “Why on earth would this guy want a complete stranger to have control over his finances? And not only that, why me?” At first I struggled with the whole concept of pocketing someone’s money, especially when I knew some of these people really struggle from paycheck to paycheck. However, after repeated requests of people asking me to manipulate their minds and wallets, I began to think of it as providing “just another service.” After all, I provide verbal manipulation, persuasion, blackmail, mind control, and sometimes a little flirtation. To this day, I still get surprised when a guy says to me, “Please blackmail me, Mistress. Tell me I am worthless and that all my money belongs to You. Force me to give You my paycheck every week so that I have nothing to live on. Make me bankrupt, Mistress.” It’s absolutely shocking. But it’s more money for me and they’re getting fulfilled, so it’s a win-win situation.

2) Do you understand what makes a man want to be a financial slave? Have you ever spoken to any of your slaves about it?

I’ve spoken with several of my financial slaves about why they crave the sight of their own thinning wallet. Many of them admit that being viewed as an exploited object is sexually arousing. A submissive may obediently submit to the financial demands of a Mistress and after obediently forking over a wad of cash, may find that when she asks for it again - it becomes an addiction. They feel the only way to gain the attention of the Mistress is to repeatedly give more money. Some see it as a humble donation that allows their Mistress to go shoe shopping or go to a salon while spending their hard earned money. On the opposite side of the coin, some men hate the idea of being “just another number” and hate being forced to give money. They would much rather be “tricked” into giving the money over, because it feels like they didn’t have a choice in the matter. For instance, one guy wanted to be manipulated into giving money but didn’t want a dollar amount because that cheapened the fantasy for him. So instead, I used reverse psychology on him, making him believe that the only way he could reach orgasm was if money was in my hand. After he gave some money, I said, “Is this what your Goddess is worth to you? That hurts. I thought you loved me.” And boom, more money. I would say again, “But sweetie, I pay more for a pair of shoes.” Boom. He sends more money. “You’re getting better sweetie, but I’m certainly going to need more if you expect me to let you orgasm.” And before you know it, I have enough money from him in just a few minutes time that I can live like royalty for a week!

3) What do you exchange for tribute payments? Is there any access to areas of your site, pictures, emails, journal entries or anything like that - that they get in exchange?

They get absolutely nothing for tribute payments. A tribute is a tribute, which is the same thing as a gift. A gift requires nothing back. I receive gifts every day, and my financial slaves know not to expect anything in return for it except the knowledge that they have made their Mistress wealthier. However I do offer photos, emails, journal entries, articles, and in-depth writings for people out of the goodness of my heart on my website. But they are usually just so people can have a better understanding of who I am. But tributes never get something in return.

4) I have noticed that the services cash slave, shopping slave, bill slave, long-term money slave, and personal ATM are offered by some financial doms. Which of these do you offer/have you offered and what is the difference between them? Do people normally have a preference? If so, what is the most popular?

I have seen lots of submissives label themselves “pathetic money slaves” more than any other type of slave. Humiliation often plays a big role in financial domination, especially when I’m telling someone, “I’m just using you for your money.” Lots of guys love this, especially when they feel they are just a nameless ATM drop. I love the long-term slaves, because I can rely on them for income and know that if I am in a bind, all I have to do is demand money. Long-term slaves find it harder to tell me “no” or “I can’t this month” because they are so addicted they would rather go bankrupt than deny me my “right” so to speak. I don’t get many bill slaves (guys who want to pay my cable, phone, rent, or insurance bills). However I DO get lots of guys that pay for pampering bills (maid service, salon trips, concert tickets, etc). Those are my personal favorites!

5) How long have you been doing this and how did you get into it?

I began doing this professionally for about three years and got into it because I stumbled on it online and knew I could make a fortune doing it. Especially since I like to be spoiled and I know how to get what I want. But even more than that, I am a very sexually open-minded person, so this comes quite naturally for me. I love learning about people’s kinks! Right now I am in school majoring in psychology studying to become a sex therapist. So that being said, the whole sex field has been the right direction for me.

6) What is your income from your financial slaves? Do you need to work as well or could you survive on just the money that you get from them? (I will NOT mention this amount in relation to you or any sums of money unless you expressly tell me that you would be ok with that.)

I make six figures (and moving up). I don’t usually survive on my financial slaves. I thrive on my hypnosis slaves and feminized pantyboys. However the financial slaves supplement my income nicely and allow me to live the lifestyle I want to have. Over 60% of my slaves are people I hypnotize on the telephone through erotic hypnosis. I hypnotize them into believing they must always devote themselves to me.

7) Would you be able to command one of your slaves to talk to me and explain himself? I am intrigued about what makes someone become a financial slave. I would really appreciate it.

Possibly. A lot of them like to do it in private though and prefer fantasy to reality, but I’ll see what I can do.

What does the blackmail entail? Is the idea that you will reveal their deepest darkest secret if they stop paying you? Would you actually do that?

Blackmail usually entails getting personal information from the financial slave’s life which may include the phone numbers of their secretary, boss, mother, wife, or a sexy girl they know. Sometimes even more extreme (and only by request only), I demand to know their social security numbers, credit cards, drivers license numbers, car tag numbers, and bank account information. However, I only make the men BELIEVE I have that information. But truth be told, I never hold on to stuff like that because I do have ethics and fantasy is much different than reality. I would never do anything illegal that could invade someone’s personal privacy. But in fantasy, I may say things like, “If you don’t send me $300 to pay for my school books this week, then I am going to tell your secretary that you masturbate thinking about her at work and she’ll never want to work with you again!” or something like, “How would your mother feel if I told her that you masturbate with her panties? If you don’t buy me these earrings, I’m going to tell her!”

9) Do you ever feel bad about taking money from people in this way? (I’m not suggesting that you should, by the way.)

Yes I do. I may be a financial dominatrix, but I often feel guilty when I know I’m destroying someone. I’ve had guys who keep paying me because they think we have a personal connection or because there may be hope of a potential relationship between us. This breaks my heart because deep down I only want their money. But hey, they asked me to take their wallets. So that’s what I do. But it pains me to know that some of these guys have wives and children with 8-5 jobs and struggle to make ends meet. There are times I KNOW that their marriages are on the warpath and I am one of the reasons for their collapsing families. That sticks with me everyday. There has only been one time where it was too much for me to handle. I couldn’t live with myself knowing I was destroying a whole FAMILY of people. Not just the husband and wife, but kids were involved too. They didn’t have food to eat and he was calling me every night. I stopped all contact with him immediately. I am not going to be responsible for children not receiving love and support because their father is frivolously spending with me. That’s where I draw the line. However I never feel guilty about taking money from those who say, “I am such a loser. I can’t believe I’m paying you. I’m so pathetic for paying you.” I actually find it humorous that I’m breaking them. If I don’t take their money, someone else will. So it may as well be me. But like I said, I draw the line at kids. I grew up poor, so I know what it’s like not to have food on the table. I refuse to be the reason a child goes hungry.

10) What is the most money that anyone has ever tributed to you (at one time or accumulatively)? What is the most expensive thing that you have been able to buy as a result of money from a slave?

I’ve had a guy spend around $5,000 in one day on me (and I had several guys that day, so I made a killing) and he also spent nearly $10,000 on lavish gifts for me as well throughout the year (just one guy). I’ve also had other guys buy me engagement rings, expensive cash gift certificates, and technological electronics like computer equipment, digital cameras, photography equipment, microphone recording equipment, and so much more. I have a 51″ television and a 2-story home filled with items soley paid for by my clients. I purchased my kick ass black (sports car is lowered and has custom body kit) Mitsubishi GS Coupe with money given to me as well. My car is named Mistress Molly cause she is so bad ass. She even has a whip hanging on her rearview mirror!

11) Do you know if you have ever financially ruined anyone by doing this?

Unfortunately, yes. I’ve driven men into bankruptcy, homelessness, and wrecked their marriages. Men who maxed their credit cards tend to have wives who check the statements, which leads to anger, jealousy, and resentment. Guys who used to be financially wealthy now survive by eating at soup kitchens and living in welfare homes struggling to make ends meet - yet they STILL call me. I’ve had guys call me from payphones on the street because they couldn’t afford to pay their phone bill on time, hence it being shut off. That’s the price they pay for giving money to their Goddess before life priorities.

12) If you need something and you don’t have the money do you just contact one of your slaves and tell them to give you some money?

In theory, you would think that works well, but not always. When I tell a slave to give me money, it’s usually not as promising as when a slave comes to ME. If I approach a slave first, several factors come into play. Perhaps the slave hasn’t gotten paid yet and any money they give me might bounce. Perhaps the slave has a sick child and the money needs to be used for hospitalization. (I absolutely refuse to take money from a child who needs it - so I always let this slide). Perhaps the slave just got caught by the wife and can’t give anymore. So it’s usually best if the slave approaches me. This way, they are in a position to GIVE and also are in a generous mood. If I desire something bad enough, I’ll buy it for myself and then demand the slaves pay it off for me when time and money allows. That way my lavish needs are met, and their financial ruin is in moderation.

13) How do you know how much to charge people?

Since financial domination covers such a vast amount of fetishes, sometimes I don’t know where to start with a new customer. (Sometimes I don’t know if they want to be humiliated or if they just want to worship me). I don’t want to demand too much money, because it could scare them off. I also don’t want to demand too little because they could feel I’m not at the level they are and they could go on to a different Mistress. So my favorite method of discovering someone’s financial domination level is to give them a list of cash amounts ranging from $10 to $999 and say to them, “Point to which one you can afford.” And no matter which one they pick, I always make them choose the amount above it. So if they choose $20, I make them pay me $50 or if they chose $300, then I make them pay $350. This way, they’re not paying out of their range. They are also evaluating my level as their Mistress by acknowledging that I will always demand more.

14) What is your favorite way to get money from people?

I love to hypnotize them! I actually specialize in erotic hypnosis and when I’ve got them under my spell, I say things like, “You will want to call me all the time. You will hear my voice in head every morning when you wake up and every night when you fall asleep. You will never stop thinking about me.” By doing so, the addiction begins and they usually begin to fall in love with me. The more they call me, the more money I make (earning money per minute) and the more they think about me, the more repeat business I do!

Isabella Valentine, Dominatrix and Erotic Hypnotist
http://isabellavalentine.com

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